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Two top New York matchmakers share on finding love with successful singles in the New Year!

When people talk about millionaires, many may think about the lavish lifestyle, luxurious vacations and designer clothes. But a happy and long lasting relationship requires more than money.

So how do millionaires make the most important decisions in their personal lives? Lots of successful and wealthy singles use matchmaking services.

New York was recently named the best city for singles, and we know two top New York matchmakers who provide some great -- often surprising, but helpful -- tips on how to snag a rich one.

We sit down for a Q&A with both of them.

Siggy Flicker, MQI

Lisa Clampitt, VIP Life Siggy Flicker is the head matchmaker for Model Quality Introductions in the New York tri-state area with more than a decade of matchmaking experience. Lisa Clampitt is the president of VIP Life and co-founder of the Matchmaking Institute, a book author and a professional matchmaker since 1999. 

NBC New York: Who are your millionaire clients? Why do they use a matchmaking service?

Flicker: Most of our male clients are between the ages of 35-60, have graduated from Ivy League Schools and have mastered their professions. We have clients that range from celebrities, CEOs, Doctors, Dentists, Attorneys and Inventors. What these men have is success and brains. What they don't have is TIME to find their partner.  Just like most people including myself, I go to professionals to have my hair done, my nails, my facials and so on.  The male clients hire me to weed out the garbage and find them a compatible match. Most people outsource everything else in their lives to experts, so why leave the most important part of your personal life to chance?

Clampitt: VIP Life male clients tend to range from late 20’s to mid 50’s, with varied occupations including CEOs, entrepreneurs, real estate developers, finance professionals, entertainment executives, doctors, lawyers, among others. Clients are often very busy and are ready to outsource their love life. Male clients tend to want it all, beauty, brains and a heart of gold.  However, sometimes the skills that make a man successful in business, such as being the aggressive top dog that leads all the meetings and demands attention, are less impressive on the dating scene.  A balanced conversation, curiosity about others, humor, flirtation and confidence with a touch of vulnerability are all key qualities in successful dating.

NBC New York: What are they looking for?

Flicker: Attractive, fun, polished, intelligent, classy ladies who posses “THE WHOLE PACKAGE” - beauty, brains and a body. Some men are searching for an athletic partner, or one who can travel, or a partner that has attended or has graduated from an Ivy League school. Some of our male clients have gone as far as to request a partner based on ethnicity from Asian, Latin, and American, etc.  Some of our female clients have requests such as height, age or ethnicity, and just recently I have had a female client request a male partner who plays a musical instrument.

Clampitt: Men are visual creatures to begin with and when a man has it all, his visual expectations can become even more particular.  But these days, looks alone don't cut it.  Men are looking for it all; looks, style, personality, intellectual compatibility, good nature and in the end; LOVE.  VIP Life works with the most discerning clients who are not willing to settle.

NBC New York: What are some tips on dating and keeping a millionaire?

Flicker: My advice to dating a millionaire is not to be intimidated by the word “millionaire”. Remember that if one has been chosen by me and I think you are worthy then you must be. Be truthful, Be sincere, be cool, calm and collected and most importantly, have fun and be yourself. Act like a lady and keep conversations on the first few dates light. Don't talk about failed past relationships or financial problems or politics. Remember that if it was meant to be than it is going to be.  The easy part to my job and to all that are in search of love is to remember that chemistry comes from the man above. You can't buy it. You can't create it. It just happens.  It is important never to give up and to continue to go out and date and date until you find your special someone and remember that life isn't supposed to be easy and where there is a will there is a way. Stay positive. Stay focused and enjoy the journey.

Clampitt: One of the biggest requests VIP Life gets from its male clients is that they want a sweet and genuine woman who is not angry or jaded.  Key tips on finding and keeping a millionaire are to be open, approachable, loving, fun, happy, flirtatious, curious, and light hearted especially in the beginning.  Once in a relationship, don't forget the beginning tips and never take the relationship for granted. Continue to have fun, feel sexy and remain loving. Love and business are two completely different skill sets.  A common misconception is that a millionaire has all the answers and knows exactly what he wants.  That is not always the case. We all have a desire to love and be loved and the path to a long-term healthy relationship is not always the obvious road.

NBC New York: Who are your female clients? What are the chances for an average looking gal to date a millionaire?

Flicker: Age 20-50. The chances are great. What is average for one guy could be spectacular to another.

Clampitt: From early 20’s to mid 40’s. They are beautiful and sophisticated women interested in having a long-term relationship with dynamic and attractive men that have proven their success within the business community, and these men want to meet women of exceptional beauty, grace and substantive intellect.

Beauty is to the successful man as money is to the attractive woman.  That being said, the more important question is why is marrying a millionaire so important? The less boundaries and rules you put on the game of life and love the more the world will open up with limitless possibilities.

NBC New York: What are your fees?

Flicker: Men pay $20,000 and up a year. The broad range is set based on one location or multiple locations throughout the county.  The women, if accepted pay nothing. We have full time recruiters working throughout the tri-state area searching for women that fit a certain criteria that MQI has established. After I interview the potential women, I use my gut instincts and decide whether or not that she fits the MQI criteria.

Clampitt: Fees start at $12,500 and up for men and membership is free for exceptional women who qualify to enter the database.

A Bakersfield woman saying she was scammed out of $15,000 by someone she met on a Christian dating website. She reported the case to the Bakersfield Police Department, but detectives say scams like this often go unsolved because online identities are usually fake.

Debby Abel says she is humiliated she fell for the internet scam, but that didn't stop her from helping others learn from her mistake. Abel fell in love with a man claiming to be Larry Felix Mark on the Christian dating website www.bigchurch.com. After two months of phone calls and emails, Abel believed she found her soul mate.

"I have never in my life connected emotionally, mentally and spiritually with someone like this person," Abel explained.

So when Mark said he needed $15,429 for a business investment in Nigeria, Africa, Abel wired the money through Western Union. Mark told Abel he would pay her back in February and said some of the money would cover the plane ticket to see her in Bakersfield just weeks before Christmas.

"He was going to meet my family at a special family dinner that we had planned," Abel explained "We were going to see what reality was like. you can't make any decisions about a relationship until you meet somebody in person."

However, the day of his flight, Abel got a surprising phone call from Mark asking for more money.

"He was asking for money again and then I realized this guy--this is a total scam," Abel said.

Abel was married for 25 years, and says it's been hard trying find another man with her interests, so she turned to websites like www.bigchurch.com and www.eharmony.com. Detective Todd Brown from the Bakersfield Police Department says scams can occur on any website, so people should be cautious when giving money online or over the phone.

"If you're going to give money to somebody, do it in a contract," Detective Brown said. "If you just send money to somebody out of the goodness of your heart, there's no civil contract you can take to court if we're able to find that person."

Detective Brown says the man or group of people who have Abel's money could already be talking to others, using a different name, picture and story. Brown says the best resource to report internet scam artists is a government website coordinated through the FBI: ic3.gov

Online dating is not so safe and secure. For more safety tips, go to DatingGuide101

A COMPANY and a businessman have been hit with penalties totalling $6.5 million over a mobile phone dating scam, in a joint case that has now netted more than $22 million in fines.

Scott Mark Moles and Jobspy Pty Ltd were penalised $2.5 million and $4 million respectively for contravening the Spam Act with unsolicited SMS messages that "preyed" on lonely hearts across the country.

One victim of the scam bought chocolate and flowers, hired a hotel room and waited at the airport for a date that never arrived.

Moles and Jobspy worked with companies Mobilegate Ltd and Winning Bid Pty Ltd, which were penalised $8.5 million in October as part of the same court action instigated by the Australian Communications and Media Authority (ACMA).

Former Winning Bid director Simon Anthony Owen, current Mobilegate director Tarek Andreas Salcedo and Winning Bid employee Glenn Christopher Maughan have also previously been penalised a total of $7.25 million in the same case.

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Bah humbug? No, not really. I met several singles over the holidays who dreaded this time of the year and were happy for a chance at a new beginning. January is the single largest month for new subscriptions to online dating services. When they discussed their frustrations with online dating, I asked why it wasn't working for them.

Their number one reason was FEAR. Yes, fear. Fear has caused many singles to lie about their age to fit into a search. This isn't new. So, when a 59 year old fairly attractive male told me he said he was 55 in his profile and he wasn't planning on changing that number, I asked him, "Will you still be 55 when you are 60?" He had to think about the answer.

Most of us look in the mirror and think we look younger than we are. We see photos on Facebook from high school and college friends and they always appear older than us, or at least we think so.

I continued my discussion with the almost 60-year old man. He was concerned that only older women would write to him. Maybe some will. When I convinced him that he didn't have to go out with every woman who wrote to him, especially those that didn't fit into his search, he eased up for a minute. When I was positive that he wasn't going to tell the truth about his age, I asked him how he'd feel if a woman lied about her age and said she was 5-10 years younger. Although it's a common trend in cyberdating, he said it's a turn-off to him.

Finally, I asked him to make a New Year's resolution to update his profile. He was not going to say he was 59 as fear of turning 60 made him panic. He did reluctantly agree to adding a "disclaimer" in his profile saying that he was really 59 but looked and felt much younger and wanted to fit into a search. I asked him to be honest about his age. He said he'd try it. After all, he hadn't been successful in lying on his online dating profile in the 3 years he has been on multiple Internet dating sites.

It's a New Year. 2009 was difficult for many with the economic turbulence. The desire for singles to couple-up is at an all time high. Wouldn't you want someone to be honest with you from the beginning? New Year's resolutions. Who needs them? We all do, if we want 2010 to be better than 2009.

Make it your New Year's resolution to live your life with authenticity -Online, offline, and where ever you may roam.

Dating Guide 101:

Dating is supposed to be a fun activity no matter what your age or experience with the opposite sex. That being said, here are tips to bear in mind if you are either coming out of a bad marriage and are in the market again, or are continuing to date till now.

Although there are no secret formulae to make your date a hit, there are, however, basics which are the same even today as they were when our grandparents, perhaps, were around. When it comes to dating, the three principles are: 1) relax, 2) pay attention and 3) be yourself. Some people may be setting the bar too high when it comes to dating.

Relax: This is of utmost importance. C'mon, it's not that serious. It's supposed to be FUN! Take a tip from the "younger" set and "just chill." Don't look at your date as the answer to all of your problems – your ills, shortcomings, things you didn't get as a child, things you did get and want to keep getting, or any other entitlements on your list. Rather, enjoy your date's company and look at the experience as a chance to make a new friend, or to be enlightened on a subject you knew little about before the date. Because at this stage of the game it means nothing, and therefore nothing should be read into the experience. Period.

Pay attention: From the first date to whatever transpires over the next few months. Remember, even though you're still "chilling," if you've gotten past the first few dates, it's time to show the other person you are sincere about getting to know them. Let's stop right here and think about that phrase (go back and say it out loud if you need to)...now ask yourself, did you really get to know the person during those first few dates, or were you concentrating on your needs again and what you want and expect? This is where many of us get into trouble – especially women.

Avoid tunnel-vision: 1) how much money he makes, 2) what kind of car he drives, 3) how does she dress, and keep an open mind about his/ her potential as a mate (if that's what you're looking for) based on what you've learned about him/ her already.

This openness can spare you from wasting time in dead-end relationships, because you'll find out all you need to know about the person simply by listening to them and observing their actions.

Be yourself: You’ve heard this before, but if you still find yourself acting weird on a date, then you've not been heeding to this warning. Keep in mind that the other person is nervous too; it's natural. Meeting a complete stranger (or if a friend introduced you, a once-removed-complete-stranger) can make anyone uncomfortable. By being relaxed and acting natural, you can help your date do the same.

Dating pet peeves
Now that we've got the principles of dating down, let me share my pet peeves.

Peeve No. 1 : The guy who has to tell me all his personal business in the first five minutes upon meeting him. This signals that he's impatient and wants to cut to whatever chase he has in mind. Usually, this man is scared to death of growing old alone and doesn't want to waste time.
What to do? Avoid this type like the plague and remember this: your 40-plus age doesn't negate the need to take your time.

Peeve No. 2: When a guy tries to impress with all the things he says he owns. But how do you know he's telling the truth? And besides, when you're over 40, you probably already have things and you're likely now looking for "substance."
What to do? Take it all with a grain of salt, be nice and when the date ends, rely on your gut to tell you your next move.

To be blunt, dating is a way to search the marketplace for someone who's compatible with your values, likes and dislikes. Things like who pays for dinner, whether you meet him at the restaurant or get picked up, or who calls whom first, is basically kids' stuff.

Do what you feel comfortable with and don't let convention (or your friends) rule. If it feels right it probably is, and if it doesn't feel right, follow your intuition, which at 40-plus should be nothing new.

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"Married dating" classes promise to drag you and your partner back to the days when you were tearing each other"s clothes off and conversation consisted of more than "good night" at the end of each day.

Married dating classes attempt to school you back into being old romantics by using techniques including individual discussions with a consultant, tips on how to flirt with your partner again, how to dress to impress and how to surprise your partner like you used to.

"When you"re dating, everything is new and exciting," says Elect Club"s Haley Hill, who organises couples" classes. "But when a level of security is reached, we tend to slip into our comfort zone and that initial desire we felt for each other disappears."

The rise of married dating classes comes on the back of new research which states many couples are unable to divorce because of financial restraints.

According to the study by divorce firm Law Options, 60 per cent of married people are too scared to get a divorce because of the cost and more than a third would never leave their partner because of loans and shared mortgages.

For those who find time a problem, some class organisers such as Asian Dinner Club will not only send you out to dinner after your flirt class but will find a babysitter, book you a table and even get someone to vacuum while you are out so your boudoir is ready for romance when you return.

"The hardest part is actually getting people out of the house," says director Salima Manji, whose service will organise surprise "dates" throughout a six-month period and introduce them to other married couples at networking nights.

"During that time we will help you plan any important dates like birthdays and anniversaries and get your confidence back," she says. "Also, by introducing you to other married couples you take the burden of conversation off each other – we encourage you to make new friends and spend a little time apart."

Doctor Manoj Mistry, 35, and his wife, Sam, 34, from west London signed up for the Asian Dinner Club"s married dating classes after routine and work pressures had meant they had started to take each other for granted.

"I went on a “blind date” – with my husband," says Sam. "This happened after the club had given us both a bit of a style makeover so we looked sexier. Just arriving separately made it seem exciting again, like in the days before being married when you never fully know how the night will turn out."

Manoj was less enthusiastic to begin with but was soon convinced.

"As a guy I feel the responsibility to think of romantic things to do, so it was good to have someone come up with cool places to go out in London and do the “man” part of sorting out all the bookings."

These classes are a much less serious alternative to relationship counselling, says Elect Club"s Haley Hill (pictured). In her "Passion Reviver Package" you meet a consultant as a couple, then on your own to find out what you feel is causing the relationship to stall. Then follows "tailored relationship consulting", including style and fitness advice. Fed up of his spare tyre? Has her nagging put an end to sex? Get the consultant to let each other know. The consultancy then books you a sexy weekend away.

If all else fails, you can always put a gun to their heads.

Hill says: "The most popular part of our service is the Spy School weekend – it"s hard to see your wife in the same way after you have watched her shoot a revolver and learn body combat. It provides sexy new experiences to talk about over a romantic dinner that night."

 

MillionaireCupid Dating Network, the international leader in millionaires, wealthy men, high caliber singles online dating, today announces

the launch of a brand new niche dating site, datelawyer.com, a premium dating site for laywers, attorneys, as well as others who are interested in singles in the legal industry. Besides dating lawyers, members can also meet other successful, quality, high caliber singles as well. Just as the website mentioned: Every serious and quality single is welcome here. However, datelawyer.com hightlights lawyers and attorneys dating. Unlike on the main network MillionaireCupid, where members can meet CEOs, pro athletes, doctors, lawyers, investors, entrepreneurs, beauty queens, fitness models, and Hollywood celebrities, successful, excellent singles, and lots more.

 

To find a partner through online dating is not so easy, to date a lawyer can be much more difficult. The reason is: all lawyers are different people. Let's hear the voice of a single lawyer: I am a lawyer and I would hate for people not to date me just for my profession. That being said, if you can't handle the occassional "I'm really busy right now, can we talk later," then you may want to look to a different profession... Without doubt, all lawyer work a lot of hours. "Lawyers working 70-hour per wees don't have time for happy hours or any type of significant social life," said Elena, practicing attorney and founder of the lawyer dating website. "This can result in a high level of personal dissatisfaction." Lawyers have less time to spend on family and lovers. To help them find love more convneiently, MillionaireCupid dating network launched this lawyer dating website. With a short glance on google, we discovered that this is absolutely the first dating service which is dedicated to lawyers dating.

 

Take a short look at the features on this brand new dating site, live chat, webmail, free wink are the most frequently used tools for dating. Personal blogs, forums, albums ensure members on this site can have enough customzied content on their profiles. Photo, age, occcupation, education, income verification can make sure members on this site are real and credible. Various search tools made the search simple and easy. Dating tips on this site can be helpful to any members who are new to online dating.

 

DateLawyer.com is a premium online matchmaking site exclusively dedicated to lawyers, law students, and legal professionals. The site is open to all serious quality singles at this moment. Interested? Why not have a try?

 

Actress Hayden Panettiere has fuelled rumours of dating Entourage star Kevin Connolly.

The 20-year-old actress - who has previously dated her Heroes co-star Milo Ventimiglia and British TV presenter Steve Jones, was seen holding hands and enjoying an intimate conversation with Connelly at the HBO Emmy Awards.

"They were there to hang out together and stayed for hours until well after midnight,” Contactmusic quoted a source as telling gossip blogger Perez Hilton.

“Kevin only left Hayden's side towards the end of the night when he wanted to chat with someone at another table," the source added.

Panettiere was recently linked to millionaire Harry Morton, after the two were seen holding hands with just three weeks ago. "He still thought he was dating her last week and told friends all about her. Harry was bragging about getting her to do anything he wants," the source added.

Our mothers and grandmothers didn’t seem to have much trouble finding a husband so why are so many women now complaining they find it almost impossible to find Mr Right?

Time and technology marches on but surely human relationships have remained the same since time began?

Well no, not really.

We only need to look to other cultures to see how different courting rituals are around the world in present days and I do believe we can learn something from arranged marriages but that’s another story.

So has it really become more difficult to find a husband in the past 50 years or have the goal posts simply moved?

Statistics in the UK show that single men outnumber single women by a considerable number, with over a million more single men than women, so why on earth are some women finding it impossible to find a husband?

Here are three reasons your Grandma found a husband but you can’t:

1. The Economy

Our Grandmothers were much more practical people, with “romantic notions” being reserved for the silver screen or a hot cocoa while you read Mills and Boon.

When it came to finding a husband they looked for a provider, a man with a steady income, clean habits and someone their mother approved of. A boring young bank clerk was considered a good catch because he could be a branch manager one day.

Dating opportunities were often limited to the Saturday night dance at the local church hall.

Likewise our Grandfathers grew up knowing they would leave school, find work and then start a family .. it’s just how life went. Playboys were rich and belonged to the upper class.

The economic boom of the eighties and early to mid nineties meant that Steve, the local estate agent, could live a cheap version of a playboys life.

He had his own “bachelor pad”, car, went clubbing every night and could sleep with as many girls as he could cope with (or would say yes) … why on earth would he want to give that up and swap it for a life of nagging and nappies?!

In short our economic situation allowed us to be far more fussy about who we chose as a life partner and therefore limited the number of potential candidates.

2. Technology

I remember my Grandma telling me about my great aunt (the family hussy because she married 4 times), as an actress she went off to Berlin and met, then married husband number three … ooo the shame of it.

For her generation the choice of men was usually limited to their own town or social circle, which limited their expectations.

For us the world is our slimy mollusc, we can now log on to the internet and in seconds be searching dating website databases with a few million members.

But surely that is good news, more people to choose from? Erm, no.

Suddenly the fella down our street seems a lot less attractive when there are chaps out there with sexy French accents or smouldering South American eyes.

So while we sit waiting for Antonio Banderas to come and serenade us Malcolm from down the road met some French tart and went to live in Paris.

We are essentially ignoring what is realistically on offer locally because we’re sure there is something far more exciting on offer in far off lands (or at least in another city).

3. Granny Held Out

My father often jokes about having spent a whole year trying to get his hand up my mothers jumper … bless him, he never managed it but wow did he have fun trying and he couldn’t wait to marry my mother to sample her delights.

Then the sexual revolution hit town and terms like ‘one night stand’ and ‘co-habitation’ entered our vocabulary.

Even my mothers generation had the sense to know you can lead a man anywhere, even to the altar, by his privates.

Just browse the internet and see how many times women ask how long they should wait until they sleep with a man (a week, a month, 3 months) …. our Grandma’s had a simple answer to this question …. until he puts a wedding ring on your finger.

Women’s liberation has given us so many choices, many our Grandmothers would never have thought of but in reality they settled for less and found it easier to find a husband.

We now want the whole nine yards and then sit back and wonder why we can’t find a husband. That doesn’t mean we should all settle for the first person to turn up and ask us on a date but perhaps we should be taking a leaf out of Grandma’s book and being a little more practical about our search for a husband.

Jealousy is often a sign that the man cares for a woman. He cherishes her and wants to protect her, that's why he becomes jealous of a few things and a few people. But what happens when those "few" things and people get more and more? That's the time that jealousy is not productive anymore.

As the woman in the relationship, you need to know some of the concrete signs that you can watch out for to determine if your millionaire match is not the "gentleman" he is setting out to be:

1. Too much determination to spend more and more time with you. This is not a bad thing, in itself. I mean, who wouldn't want to spend their time with a great woman like you? However, alarm bells should start ringing in your head if he insists on spending more and more time with you that it eats up your time with your buddies and friends offline. He insists on chatting with you right after work, like if your work stops at 5, he'll be at the chatroom or email you at the exact dot. He'll ask you why you were late and who you were with, then at what time did you exactly get out of work, and how much time you spent on travel. In short, he's monitoring out your social activities. By making sure that you know he's waiting will pressure you to go back home ASAP and go online with him.

2. Too much interest with your social life. He would insist on knowing each and everyone of your friends and family members. If he sees you chatting with someone you did not introduce to him, or catches you talking with someone else, then he's get into irrational anger and demand that you tell him who you were chatting or talking to. Why does he do this? To put it simply, he's worried that you'll dump him for that "guy" on the phone or chatroom. Again, he doesn't think that he deserves to be loved, so he would always wonder why you would love him and he will be constantly afraid that you'll leave him for a better man. He would also say how each friend is a bad influence to you, and you'd do better to dump them and spend more time with him.

3. Too much involvement with what you wear. Admit it, as women, we love to make a fashion statement. We always try to look our very best when we go out, right? Even if we're only meeting someone through the web cam. This is where you can usually find out first if he's possessive and/ or jealous. How? He will try to influence you and the way you dress. He will insist that you change into something else if he sees you wearing a particular set of clothes. He will insist that you can't wear certain shorts, skirts, and your jeans, and will insist that you let him know all of the outfits that you will wear. If this happens, then tell your guy gently, that you are comfortable with your clothes and you will wear what you want and he'll have to live with it. But again, say this gently, so as not to arouse an even bigger monster inside him: anger. He will also start attacking your self-esteem little by little, making criticisms on how you look in certain outfits, and then telling you that you should feel lucky that a girl like you has a millionaire match like him. Do not believe this. You are an extremely beautiful woman inside and out, and he's the one who's lucky that he has you.

It is always great for women to feel loved and wanted, and a little bit of jealous actions will be an indication. However, it has to have its limits and should be kept in control.

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Happy news: I've bought a flat. Still haven't moved in, or exchanged contracts, and I'm slightly dreading the hassle of home-ownership again: the council tax bills, the blown fuses, the demands from next door that Céline Dion is turned down. But you can't live like a student for ever and basically I'm pleased.

In fact, so surprisingly painless has the process been that I have found myself wishing that relationships were more like property. Wouldn't it be great, for instance, if potential partners came with the equivalent of a home information pack, outlining character flaws, and maybe their carbon footprint? Or if you could get surveys done on romantic prospects to get an idea of the trouble that may lie ahead? Or if you could negotiate over fixtures and fittings, have minor imperfections fixed by a Polish builder, rent them out if you get bored, etc?

And wouldn't it be fabulous if dating was more like buying a house? Indeed, it strikes me that what the eight million British singles really need is online "housedating": a website that, instead of relying on personal statements, photos and information about star signs, allowed people to find partners by exchanging information on how and where they live.

A house, in contrast, reveals almost everything that you need to know about someone. Anyone with a granite sideboard, for instance, is clearly a fashion victim. Anyone with no book shelves has no soul. Degree certificate hung in study: working class. Degree certificate in loo: middle class. Renting: commitment issues. Alphabetised CD collection: anal. Shoe rack: uptight. Corner sofa: pretentious. Spider plants: humourless. Desolate garden: self-absorbed, unnurturing, workaholic. Jacuzzi: sleazy. Cellar: kinky. Tennis court: Tory MP. Landscaped garden: Labour MP. Home cinema system: Shahid Malik. Tudor effects: John Prescott. And so on.

As Jane Austen understood and the producers of Through The Keyhole and Grand Designs realise, houses betray even subliminal truths about individuals. I've just been discussing my new flat with a posh friend, informing her that I was planning to install a plasma screen TV above the mantelpiece, having forgotten that the middle classes have a thing about hiding their TVs, and I doubt that she would have been more horrified if I'd announced that I was installing a turbo barbecue in the bathroom. The detail revealed something that I'll never be able to change: for all my middle-class pretensions, I will always be the child of immigrants.

There are other attractions to online housedating (the domain "housedating. com" appears to be available, by the way), not least discretion. One of the main reasons that singles resist the online thing is that they worry they will be spotted by friends, colleagues and enemies, who will then mock their desperation and loneliness. But photographs of attics, bathrooms and tasteful kitchens would ensure privacy.

Furthermore, if online housedating were conducted within the regulatory and legal framework of the traditional estate agency, you'd have much more confidence. You'd obviously get a few people claiming to live in Chatsworth when they have a bedsit in Bilston, but there could be compensation if things were misleading, and as solicitors would govern the set-ups, as they police house purchases, there would be legal recourse if/when the relationship went wrong.

Which brings us to the most appealing thing: housedating would restore the role that wealth plays in romance. There are some dating sites that tackle the issue of income directly: many Asian matrimonial sites ask you to state your profession and income, for instance, millionairecupid.com ("the world's best and largest dating site for successful singles, admirers and friends"), wealthychats.com  ("find and meet wealthy men and beautiful women"), seekwealthy.com ("we have thousands of successful and attractive members who recognise that life is there to be lived") are brazen about it.

But most sites ignore it, or tiptoe around the subject, pretending that it doesn't matter if someone works at Burger King or is a hedge-fund manager, when we all know that it really does. As the writer David Sedaris recently put it: "Money tells you 70 per cent of what you need to know about someone."

And as property tells you 70 per cent of what you need know about someone's money, online housedating would get you straight into the things that matter. Though I'm not sure that it's particularly encouraging that property prices have been falling at record levels and there appears to be no end to the downturn.

Book overview

You get that he's just not that into you, but why?

What "really" happened when that cute guy never called you back after your date? Why didn't that intriguing man you flirted with online or at the party ask you out? It's an annoying mystery. One minute there was a potential romance happening, and the next? He vanished, inexplicably. If you knew why men reacted in these ways, you could do something about it next time when the right guy comes along.

So Rachel Greenwald did what you're too embarrassed to do yourself. As a renowned dating coach with a Harvard MBA, she applied business savvy to the dating world by conducting in-depth "Exit Interviews" with 1,000 single men, asking them why they hadn't called back after a date or online flirtation. By refusing to accept glib responses such as "There was just no chemistry," she extracted unabashedly honest and raw answers. It turns out that men leave women hanging for clear, consistent reasons. The Top Ten Date-Breakers-revealed here in Greenwald's unique research-are the result of signals that women of all ages send unknowingly, but are easily fixed. Citing true anecdotes and case studies, this book examines the most frequent date-breakers that men confessed, and offers practical advice on how you can avoid them.

Greenwald's goal "isn't" for you to pretend to be someone you're not, but rather to keep the ball in your court. By using her research results as a guide to tweak your comments and gestures, you'll have more men asking to see you again. Then you can accept or decline their invitations: "you're" doing the selecting-not them.

In today's increasingly complex dating world, both online and offline, learning how to maximize your dates is essential. With a fresh and entertaining behind-the-scenes vantage point, "Why He Didn't Call You Back" offers simple solutions that empower women to choose the men they really want to date.